Do you need a reboot? Not a cleanse, not a crash diet, not some crazy exercise regimen. I mean, a mental reboot. Sometimes when things just aren't working or stop working, or we've gone off the rails a bit with our habits, we need a check in, we need a regroup, we need to reboot. Today, I'm going to help you figure out if that's you right now, and what you can start doing about it. And I want to encourage you, as you listen today, if any of this is resonating with you, if you hear these five things, and you're like, Oh, crap, Tara, that is totally me. I have something for you. Coming up on July 19, I'm doing a Five Day Re-Bootcamp. So not like a boot camp, or I'm gonna make you eat stuff or lose 10 pounds or do some crazy exercises. It's more like a mental reboot. It's totally free. I'm going to go live and train you for five straight days, I'm going to give you some of my best stuff, because what I want you to understand for you is exactly what's keeping you stuck. And then exactly what your right next steps are. It's going to be different for every single person in the group. But I want to teach you how to figure it out for yourself. So for five days, we're going to talk about how to get super clear on what it is you really want and how to get it. We're going to talk about the three things that you're probably not doing consistently that are totally keeping you stuck. We're gonna talk about the mindful eating method, this is going to be key. If you are someone who is sick of diets, you don't want to go on another diet, but you have no idea how to not be on a diet. This is going to be the thing that's going to help you get off the diet rollercoaster. We're going to talk about nutrition, we're going to learn about how our body works and what that actually means. And we're going to figure out how to get you moving forward again. So if that sounds good to you, or if anything you hear in this podcast today, sounds like something that you need some assistance with, you need a reboot, hop into the free five day group, it's July 19, through 23rd. It's coming up quick. Just go to tarafaulmann.com/reboot. And that is going to be your registration link. Again, it's totally free. It's gonna be awesome. tarafaulmann.com/reboot, that link will also be in the show notes. Okay, let's get down to it. 

You hear this term, probably like this boot camp, this reboot whatever I am at this point in my life, where usually about quarterly, I run a sort of diagnostic check on my life. And it usually coincides with my quarterly doctor appointment that I go to you with blood tests and things like that. But I spend that time checking into the areas of my life. I go through and decide what's working, what's not working, what needs to change. I started doing this regularly about four or five years ago. That was when I started working again. And so when I started adding a career back into my life, things felt very overwhelming very quickly. And I was still trying to figure out my entire autoimmune situation. So I was overwhelmed. I was frustrated really easy. I would lose sight of progress that I was making, but I wasn't notice or give myself any credit for the progress that I was making. All I could see is where I still needed to go. I wasn't giving myself Have any credit for where I had already gotten through, and I was feeling really stuck. And so doing this kind of quarterly check in for myself, this quarterly reboot really started helping me number one, see what I already knew all the things that I already knew and have already done. And it also helped me get clear on what my path was going to be going forward. So today, we're talking about a reboot in terms of your health and wellness goals. And so I'm going to help you decide if it's time for you to have a mind body reboot as well. So there's five signs, there's five real clear signs that you have reached kind of this stopping point where you need to kind of check in and regroup with yourself. 

So the first sign is that you feel like a failure, and especially that you feel like a failure because you can't "stick" to your diet. I have a question. How many diets Have you bet on in your life already? How many diets have you started and stopped just this year? Maybe we should count 2020 in that as well. But for most of us, that answer is a lot. I have met grown women who have more or less been on a diet since they were teenagers. That's like 20 plus years of dieting. You know that saying I think it's from Einstein. I think Einstein said it. But that saying where the definition of insanity is keep doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. That's us with diets. We keep hopping on this diet and that diet, and maybe this will be the one and shoot, well, that one didn't work. Maybe this will be the one we'll shoot. Maybe I'll go back to this one because it did kind of work until I stopped. So maybe if I started again, it'll work again, right? We do all this mental gymnastics to justify ourselves getting on another diet. The truth is, we don't know how to not be on a diet. We've been on diets for so long. If I told you just don't be on any diet, you'd walk into the grocery store, and you'd be like, well, crap, what do I even buy? Like, what do I eat? If I don't have rules about what I'm supposed to eat or not eat? How do I even know what to eat? I know, it's like mind blowing. The problem is we get so mad at ourselves, because we couldn't stick to these diet rules, right? We never examine, is there something wrong with the diet? Is that why I couldn't stick to it? No, we don't do that. We don't blame the diet. We blame ourselves. There's something wrong with me. There's something wrong with me. That's why I couldn't stick to it. 

We're always convinced that if I was just a little more committed, if I just tried this next thing that'll be different. And then the shame spiral starts, what's wrong with me? Everyone else seems to be able to diet,  everyone else is losing weight on this diet. Why can't I, I have no willpower. I have no discipline, I am such a loser. I will never lose this weight. I am a failure. I can't stick to this diet. And then of course we don't. And then we decide again later. Okay, well, I still want to lose weight. So shoot, well, I guess I'm gonna find another day. And then I don't "stick" to that diet either. Because it sucks again. And then I start feeling like a loser again. I don't lose any weight again. And then I'm still stuck in the same position. So I think I should go try another diet. Have you been in this cycle?  Some of us have been in this cycle since we were teenagers. It's real. If you are stuck here in this never ending diet roller coaster cycle, it's time for a reboot. It's time to get off the roller coaster take a different approach. It's time to see yourself differently. It's time to see weight loss differently. Not from a diet mentality. But from an on diet mentality. That's right. Some people freak out. But what I teach my clients is how to not ever be on a diet. Again, I don't teach a certain kind of diet. I teach you how to not do it. So that sounds like you that it's time for a reboot, and you're going to want to hop in that free group. 

The second sign is that you feel like you're doing everything right. But nothing's changing. You feel just like you're spinning your wheels like I'm following the diet. I'm committed. I'm doing the things I'm watching what I eat, I'm not eating this, I am eating this. I'm going to the gym. I'm doing all the things and nothing seems to change. What gives? This is the diet hamster wheel or as I personally like to call it the diet black hole, because that's what it feels like you're doing everything you're supposed to do. You're following the rules, but it's not working. And even worse, the harder you push, the harder you diet. The more you restrict, the harder you work out, the further and faster you are drawn into the diet black hole where no change happens. I have been here countless times, because I am a pusher, right? I am the person who's like push through, push through work harder, work harder diet harder. That is my mentality was my mentality. And I absolutely would get drawn into this diet black hole.  I call the black hole because you get sucked in and you can't get back out.  You can only diet so hard, you can only exercise so hard, there is a line. So if you feel like you are on the diet hamster wheel, if you feel like you're being pulled into this black hole, where you can't get out of because you can't do any more. Girl, it is time for a reboot. 

What you think you know about diet and exercise and weight loss might be totally skewed. By the horrible advice that we have all been fed for decades, the internet is still full of terrible advice. I just today saw a commercial about how to lose your menopause belly in 10 days, Okay, can we be honest about this, you cannot lose your menopause belly in 10 days, you can lose water weight in 10 days, and over the next 10 days, you will gain it all back. But you cannot lose your menopause belly in 10 days, but we keep looking at these and keep thinking oh, that's the net. That's it. Okay, well, what's diet harder, okay, that's diet harder was restrict more, okay, that diet is restrict more, let's try that. We just keep getting sucked in sucked into this black hole. So I want to shine some light on this for you. I want you to see that there is another way that there is a way that does not involve dieting harder and exercising harder. In fact, the way out for you is to do less. sign number three, that you need to reboot, you are getting stuck in the restrict and refeed cycle. I don't feel like I've met anyone in my life who hasn't done this before. So first of all, I want you to know you're okay. We all do this at different times. But here's what's happening. We decide we want to lose weight. So obviously, the way we lose weight is to go on a diet, right? Because that's what we do. And inevitably, every single diet has a set of rules that we're supposed to follow about what and when and how much we can eat. Every diet is basically just some kind of form of fancy form of calorie control or restriction. So as soon as we start that diet, right, starting on Monday, as soon as we start, all we can think about is the food that now we can no longer have because it doesn't fit our diet. Right? Like it gets obsessive sometimes like it's all I can think about. In fact, before I decided to go on that diet, maybe it was something I didn't think about a ton like I love it. But I didn't think about a ton. But now all sudden, as soon as it's forbidden fruit, it's all I want. You're also on this diet, likely not eating enough during the day. So you're probably hungry all day, raise your hand if you've been on a diet where you're hungry every day. So then now I'm hungry all the time, I'm having overwhelming cravings, it's really only a matter of time before I give in to them. Like I am completely set up for failure. It's only a matter of time before I lose this diet, and I just start eating all of that food that I really, really wanted. 

Usually that giving in looks like overeating. Some people call it bingeing, I felt, I feel like people get really triggered by that word binge. Like, I don't binge, not me, not me. So let's change the language. And we'll just say, when you give in to those cravings, it looks like over eating like we eat a lot of it right, normally more than we would normally want to eat in one setting. And like we're kind of really going off the wagon here like we're starving. Mentally, we hate it. We've had it we're done. We feel overwhelmed. Because not only are we on this diet, but life is still happening. Like we still have all the other stresses over our life. And so we're like, EFF it, I'm gonna eat that damn pizza. And you know what, I'm gonna eat a lot of it. And then we feel guilty. And then we start the shame spiral. And then the whole cycle starts over, right. So when we restrict like that, like we do on diets, we are trying to control so hard that it inevitably ends up backfiring on us. And that is when you need a reboot. You need a reboot to learn to let go. I know it's scary, but letting go of the control we try to have over our food and our bodies actually gives us more control in the end. I know it seems so weird, right? It's like a panic. paradox, but giving up control over these things actually ends up putting us more in control. It's the same idea of going with the flow of a stream, when we are trying to go on a diet, we are rowing upstream, we are fighting against the current, it's against what our body wants, it gets against what our brain wants, we are just working so hard to row against this current. And if I stop rowing, I will go with the flow, I will go with what my body wants, I will go with what my brain wants. And what happens is I actually move faster, I move a lot faster, if I just give up some of that control. So I know it's scary. But that's one of the things that I want to teach you is to how to how to give up control to gain control. I know it sounds crazy, but I swear it's true. So if this is you, if this sounds like you, then it is time for a reboot. And I want you to check out that free five day group coming up. 

Sign number four, you have just totally given up, you have thrown your hands up, you are over it, I am done, I give up. This is just how I'm gonna look forever. If it all sounds like you, you're just like, you're going to be resigned to it. This is how I look, this is just how it's gonna be forever. Like, whatever I'm not where I want to be. But I'm just totally sick of this crap. And I'm just gonna accept where I'm at right now. So you might think that's a bad thing. You might see it as giving up, but I see it as the perfect place to be, you're already ahead of the game. Because most of us are stuck in this place of trying to swim upstream, trying to get on the next day at trying to restrict harder, diet harder, exercise harder, but you smart woman, you have said effort to all of that. So you're already a step ahead, and you're in the perfect position to reboot and restart and try something else. If you're in that effort place, you have already realized the futility of continuing to do what you're doing that hasn't worked, you are done banging your head against the wall. So congratulations. If you have given up, you're already on the right path, it means you're open, you're open to looking at food and your body and your thoughts and your relationship with food in new ways. The trick is you have to capitalize on this moment, right before you start another diet because you will because that's what we do we all do it. When you're in this screw it, F it place, you have to capitalize on that moment, that moment where you're open to seeing things in a different way before it shuts down again, and you're back into the same old patterns. So if this is you, it is the perfect time for a reboot. 

And the fifth sign that you need to reboot is that you are totally sick of diet and you are willing to do the work to figure this crap out for good. You're done. So you have moved from the place where you're just like I quit, you have now moved to the place of seeking, you are seeking the real answers. You are searching for what's really going to make the difference instead of the cycle that you've been stuck in. You might feel like you're definitely missing something, and you're ready to figure out what that something is. you're realizing that you've been following this crappy advice for years and it hasn't worked. You are seeing that the emperor has no clothes, so to speak. Or that the Great and Powerful Oz is just a bunch of smoke and mirrors right? You are noticing you are peeking behind the curtain and seeing that the crap that you've been fed all of these years, the bad information, the bad advice, the bad diet, you are starting to see that it's just a bunch of BS, and you are ready to find the better way you are open to seeing something different. When I personally got to this point, when my eyes were opened to the idea that there was this whole world out there that didn't revolve around diet and exercise and body shaming myself. It was like the heavens open right? And it's like, oh my gosh, there's so much possibility. I got to that point because I was so tired of hating my body. I was so tired of fighting against myself. I was so tired of being resentful and hateful towards myself. Thinking like why isn't this working for me? Why can I stick to this? Why do I still look like this? I was so tired of being in that place. I was tired of food rules. I didn't want to count measure shit anymore. Like I just didn't, I didn't want to have to track stuff. I didn't want good food, bad food, I didn't want to feel bad when a bad food and I didn't want to judge myself constantly for what I was doing or not doing. I just wanted to eat food and feel good. Is that too much to ask. And it was at that point that I realized, like, okay, there is a whole other way, there's a whole other way to approach this, and I need to figure this out, I need to learn this, I need to understand this. 

And now my mission is to teach this to you, I want you to have that freedom around food, I want you to give up control so that you can gain control, I want to teach you that sometimes you have to slow down to speed up, I want to teach you that there is a way to love and respect yourself and also do what's healthy and right for yourself. There's a balance that we can reach. And it has nothing to do with food rules. And it has nothing to do with the workout that you're doing. And it has nothing to do with the diet you're following. It has everything to do with changing our relationship with our mind, with our body with our food. And those are the things that I want to teach to you. And so beating a dead horse here, but I really want you to hear me when I say this. If any of this sounds like you, I want you to get into that five day group. It's totally free. I am going to coach my little heart out. And I created the workbook for it. And the workbook is like 50 pages. And I was like oh my gosh, I have this real problem where I just want to tell you everything. And so my clients will tell you this, like sometimes it's information overload because I just want you to know everything. So I did it again, I made a 50 page workbook for you over and for me to train you on. But the reason I did it is because there's a lot of pages in there that are really reflective for you so that you can figure things out on your own. Because then I can tell you a lot of things and I can teach you a lot of things. But unless and until you figure out how that relates to you, and where you're at personally right now and your thought processes and your body and how you are nourishing your mind and your body. It's all for not right, you can listen, listen, listen. But if you don't understand how that applies to you and how to actually apply it, then what's the point? So that's what I really want to teach you in those five days. And that's also what I teach you in the Healthy Mind healthy body program. So get in there, tarafaulmann.com/reboot. I want to see your cute little faces in there. And I want to really work closely with you for those days and move you forward and help you get to the next level for you in the next level where you might be never dieting again. Hallelujah. Praise the Lord, right. Okay, my friends, until we talk again or I see you in that group. Have a great week and Be Well.